{"id":1440,"date":"2014-01-03T09:15:48","date_gmt":"2014-01-03T09:15:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.digmandarin.com\/?post_type=portfolio&#038;p=1440"},"modified":"2016-06-26T07:31:00","modified_gmt":"2016-06-26T07:31:00","slug":"unwritten-rules-for-paying-dinner-bill-in-china","status":"publish","type":"portfolio","link":"https:\/\/www.digmandarin.com\/all-video-lessons\/unwritten-rules-for-paying-dinner-bill-in-china","title":{"rendered":"Unwritten Rules for Paying Dinner Bill In China"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/kxiM2evjKKY\" 'frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n[vc_row][vc_column][vc_tta_tabs color=&#8221;blue&#8221;][vc_tta_section title=&#8221;Notes&#8221; tab_id=&#8221;1466765207314-957f075d-6d35&#8243;][vc_column_text]\n<strong>\u4ed8\u94b1<\/strong>(F\u00f9 qi\u00e1n , pay the bill)<br \/>\n<strong>\u8bf7\u5ba2<\/strong>(Q\u01d0ngk\u00e8, treat)<br \/>\n<strong>\u6d17\u624b\u95f4<\/strong>(X\u01d0sh\u01d2uji\u0101n, rest room)<br \/>\n<strong>\u5ba2\u4eba<\/strong>(K\u00e8r\u00e9n, guest)<\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_tta_section][vc_tta_section title=&#8221;Expanded Knowledge&#8221; tab_id=&#8221;1466765207383-ec5d35a4-ffd8&#8243;][vc_column_text]\n<h2>The Etiquette of Fighting for a Bill<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-1441\" src=\"https:\/\/www.digmandarin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/pay.jpg\" alt=\"pay\" width=\"230\" height=\"170\" \/>It&#8217;s not uncommon to see people fighting over the bill in Chinese restaurants. They will try to pull the bill away from someone else at their table and shout with red faces at each other. It is considered polite to offer once or even twice to pay the bill, even if you are the guest. There may be very loud protests to show that they are sincere in wanting to pay the bill themselves, but often it is just a bluff.<\/p>\n<p>Generally, Older pays for younger, men pay for women, asker pays for askee. Nevertheless, whenever someone offers to pay the bill, fight them (physically if necessary) for the honor. If you lose, you pick up the tab next time. If someone says they have to \u201cgo to the bathroom\u201d near the end of the meal, make sure they\u2019re not sneaking over to pay the bill. Feel free to split the bill if eating with coworkers or friends with whom you have an understanding.<\/p>\n<h3>When to Offer to Pay<\/h3>\n<p>A good rule of thumb is that you should always offer\u2014even if your friend invited you, or if you\u2019re the younger, poorer party. It\u2019s just good manners. But there are some caveats.<\/p>\n<p><em>With someone older, like a family friend:<\/em> When the bill comes, take out your wallet as if you\u2019ll pay, but when they say they have it, don\u2019t bother arguing and say thank you. If this is someone who habitually buys you meals and you want to say thank you, it\u2019s best to sneak off and pay the bill near the end of the meal. This way you can avoid an embarrassing argument.<\/p>\n<p><em>For someone\u2019s birthday:<\/em> Contrary to Western rules, the birthday girl or boy should pay for a birthday dinner. However, friends should all bring gifts to pay them back.<\/p>\n<p><em>On a date:<\/em> Gender equality doesn\u2019t extend to romantic dinners in China. Girls need not even pretend as though they\u2019re going for the bill\u2014guys pay, and if a girl insists on paying, that means she\u2019s not interested in the guy.<br \/>\nAt a party for you: Moving out of town? Leaving your company? Let your friends buy you dinner; you\u2019re not obligated to pay.<\/p>\n<p><em>Business meal:<\/em> This is a true standoff. Unless you\u2019re doing someone a big favor by having a meal with them .you\u2019ll likely be forced to fight over the bill. There are several factors to take into account: who asked and who accepted, whose turf you\u2019re on, who wants what out of whom. This is a time to dig in your heels and make use of all your tricks.<\/p>\n<h3>How Far to Go<\/h3>\n<p>This is where it gets embarrassing. You want to put in enough fight to be polite, but not so much that you draw the attention of the whole restaurant.<\/p>\n<p><em>How many times to offer:<\/em> Twice. Possibly three times if the bill is expensive.<\/p>\n<p><em> Whether to get physical:<\/em> It\u2019s best only to get physical (shoving and grabbing hands) with friends. Protest verbally and even gesticulate wildly with a business acquaintance, but don\u2019t touch them. Also refrain from shoving money in someone\u2019s pocket or sneaking it into their belongings. As one of my colleagues sensibly noted, \u201cWhat if they just thought it was their own money?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><em>Secret payment:<\/em> This move is best to use with acquaintances who you know will argue for the bill or for business meals. It usually isn\u2019t necessary to use with friends unless you have a particularly determined friend who likes to pay every time.<\/p>\n<p>What to Say When You\u2019ve Failed Well, you gave it your best shot, and you failed miserably. Now it\u2019s time to take it like a man. Some polite phrases include:<\/p>\n<p>\u591a\u8c22\u4f60\uff0c\u4f60\u592a\u5ba2\u6c14\u4e86\u3002<br \/>\nDu\u014dxi\u00e8 n\u01d0, n\u01d0 t\u00e0i k\u00e8q\u00ecle.<br \/>\nThank you so much, you\u2019re too polite!<\/p>\n<p>\u4e0b\u6b21\u6211\u8bf7\u4f60\u5427\u3002<br \/>\nXi\u00e0 c\u00ec w\u01d2 q\u01d0ng n\u01d0 ba.<br \/>\nNext time I\u2019ll treat you!<\/p>\n<p>\u4e0b\u6b21\u4e00\u5b9a\u8ba9\u6211\u6765\u3002<br \/>\nXi\u00e0 c\u00ec Y\u00edd\u00ecng r\u00e0ng w\u01d2 l\u00e1i.<br \/>\nNext time definitely let me pay<\/p>\n<p>.<br \/>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_tta_section][\/vc_tta_tabs][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s common to see people fighting over the bill in Chinese restaurants. 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